We get sucked into the routine of humdrum life so quickly. Everyday routine becomes the norm, not only in our jobs but also in our personal lives. We do our best to keep those around us happy.

We get told from a young age to look out for others, treat your neighbor as you want to be treated and make the people around you happy at all costs. That is what makes you a good person.

Even in the Pizzazz Factor I encourage you to make the people that you are in contact with every day feel good about themselves.

It is a great rule to live by... care for others, care about their happiness and be gracious and abundant with your love and compassion. If everyone could do that more consistently the world would be a much better place... But what is the best way to do that?

There is an important detail missing here.

Make sure you remember to look after yourself too. There is a fine line between making others happy and doing so at the cost of your own health and happiness.

The most important thing to remember is to be true to yourself and your own feelings. This simple sounding task is often much easier said than done. Sometimes we lose sight of our own goals and needs in the midst of loving and caring for others.

The truth is that if you don't take care of yourself first, then you can't give your best to others because then you don't have that much to give. Be true to your feelings and your goals first so that you can be there in an even greater capacity for those that you love and care for.

"The most loving person is the person who is self-centered" - Neale Donald Walsch

This seems like a radical statement, but not if you look at it carefully.

Taking time for yourself - By that I mean taking time to take care of yourself whether it mean a vacation, alone time away, a facial or massage, or a seminar or course for self-improvement, or even just reading; even keeping sight of your goals and dreams and going after them; anything you do for yourself - this can feel like a very selfish act if you feel like someone else needs you to be around.

But you need to look at the bigger picture. Is it not true that you will be able to give those around you more of yourself once you feel secure and happy within your own heart and soul?

So you are in fact not being selfish, but totally unselfish because now, once you have taken care of yourself and you have accepted yourself and you love yourself, now you have greater capacity to take care of others, accept others and love others.

So my message to you today is - Be true to yourself, be true to your own feelings and needs and stand up for what you want, because that way you can be there in a much greater capacity for your family, friends and colleagues. You will have more to give!

Kind regards

Vanessa Bader

P.S. The Pizzazz Factor guides you so you can be your own ultimate best!

Please feel free to comment on this article... I always welcome your input and opinion!

You know the bad habit all too well.  The one where you go and stand in front of the mirror and criticize yourself.  You have a daily routine, your morning rituals, and all too often part of that is consciously or subconsciously picking yourself apart.

You have to stop doing that! That creates unbelievable negativity in your life and psyche. In order to nurture your self-confidence you have to consciously start finding the things about you that you like.  No, don't resist... don't say there's nothing - find something.

You have to start concentrating on the positive traits that you have.  Whether it be personality or physical traits, you have to start putting your energy into the good things in your life.

You are the only one that can lay the foundation for that powerful presence you want to have. You can literally change your whole life around by just starting with this one small thing every morning.

Start off by finding just one or two things about yourself that you like, use that as your foundation and build on that.  Before you know it you'll have a whole list you can draw from. This can help you immensely when you are in a situation where you are feeling insecure or intimidated.

The way you see yourself can most certainly have a HUGE impact on the way other people see you.

The Pizzazz Factor will help you reach your full Potential.  The Pizzazz Factor is a system that will take you through the steps of creating a new, more confidant, charismatic you. The person that you deserve to be.

You Have the Power!

Kind regards

Vanessa Bader

P.S. Draw people to you, make new friends, astound business colleagues, put zest back in your relationship.  These are all the things that great confidence in yourself can give you.  So don't delay for another moment!

P.P.S  If you get the course on the Pizzazz Factor today,  you will also receive a F*R*EE workbook, thera-band elastic and audio CD with interviews.